Red wall with "Are you dancing?" written on it

When you say ‘yes’, what are you saying ‘no’ to?

What is the cost of saying yes, both tangible and intangible? In our voyage through the tricky waters of boundaries, saying yes to requests from others or to situations that arise when we actually would prefer to say no, is possibly one of the most difficult boundaries to maintain. If I say ‘yes’ to this,…

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penguin lying on its tummy - cost of unbalanced living

What is the cost of unbalanced living?

I have recently joined the most fabulous Pilates class. Our wonderful, intuitive instructor has an innate ability to spot areas of weakness and help us tweak postures and positions to target key muscles.  It is hard work, physically and mentally rejuvenating and I love it.  And every week comes with a new revelation of a…

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pile of rocks balanced

Living an unbalanced life

Balance. There is an interesting word. A simple concept, but like so much of life, much harder to put into practice and live by. Look it up in the dictionary and you get words like equilibrium, harmony, calmness. Does that describe your life? Or does it feel more like you are living an unbalanced life? …

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Benevolent detachment

On benevolent detachment and noticing

Noticing. I am noticing that I am doing a lot of noticing at the moment. I am talking to clients about the importance of noticing, and I am aware of how much space this is making in my own mind and soul.  Simply stopping, and noticing. And detaching. Like letting go of a balloon and…

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