How good are you at taking your own medicine? One of the curious quirks of being a life coach is how often I reflect back on client sessions and see lessons for myself that I need to pay attention to. Similarly, my blog musings generally are inspired by my current thinking or reading on some…
What is mine to do?
How well do you know your own needs? And how easy do you find it to communicate them with your Nearest-and-Dearest? More on that here. What is yours to do and what is for the other person? This is about being able to say, calmly, clearly and kindly: This is who I am, this is…
How to say ‘no’ well
How easy do you find it to say no? And do you know how to say no well? Why is it so hard? (There are practical tips at the bottom of the post.) These are thorny questions indeed. We have been musing recently here on boundaries. The importance of knowing what it is that we…
When you say ‘yes’, what are you saying ‘no’ to?
What is the cost of saying yes, both tangible and intangible? In our voyage through the tricky waters of boundaries, saying yes to requests from others or to situations that arise when we actually would prefer to say no, is possibly one of the most difficult boundaries to maintain. If I say ‘yes’ to this,…
How often do you play The Comparisons Game?
How often do we play the comparisons game? You know how it works – I wish I was more/less like so-and-so If only I could…..like he/she can I can’t write/draw/play football/sing/cook/ as well as…….can I wish I was as handsome/fit/pretty/tall/short/thin as……. In reflecting back on our lives when we get to the end of them, if…
What is your word of the year 2025?
Once again we find ourselves at the beginning of a new year. There is an inexorable inevitability about this. One day follows another, a process we can neither slow nor stop. 2025 has gone – what word would you use to describe it? The Christmas festivities are passed. New Year celebrations are over. We are left…
The tastes and smells of Christmas…remind you of what?
It’s a very tasty and smelly time of year. And generally that makes me very happy. What are some of the tastes and smells of Christmas in your house? Our moods are affected most by what we take in through our senses. What we see, hear, smell, taste, and how we experience touch, can affect…
Enjoying Christmas with all our senses
Christmas is fast approaching – it is impossible to deny it now, despite my best attempts. What are your senses telling you as you go through this week? I absolutely love Christmas, but generally like to keep it to December. MB has been told that his favourite enormous Santa mug can be reintroduced to the…
How to live in the present in this season
How do we learn to live in the present, in this season? With all the uncertainty and instability in our world? And as Christmas rapidly approaches? One of the death bed regrets I have been musing on is regretting not making more of each moment that we live in. Do you crave the quiet enjoyment…
Become what you already are
Become what you already are. A bishop used this phrase on the radio this week, and it has stayed with me. We are more than half way through the year now, and the summer season, whatever that means to you, is here. For me, that means less time writing and shorter musings. The year is…