What do you know of your limits – emotional, physical, mental and spiritual? What is the necessary amount of space you need to function at your best and not collapse into a gibbering stressed heap or explode into a crazy raging person? How are you protecting that space with good boundaries? We learn much from…
How to say ‘no’ well
How easy do you find it to say no? And do you know how to say no well? Why is it so hard? (There are practical tips at the bottom of the post.) These are thorny questions indeed. We have been musing recently here on boundaries. The importance of knowing what it is that we…
Letting go of busy
Chances are, if I ask you how you are this week, you might well answer with Busy. Busyness can be useful and is an important part of normal, 21st Century life. And letting go of busy is a hot topic these days. Sometimes we are able to accomplish more when we are busier. And life…
What are your emotional, social and sensory rest needs?
Do you find yourself trying to please all the people round you all the time? What is the cost of this? This links to understanding our emotional rest needs. People pleasing is a common experience for many. It might be that saying no to requests for help is really hard, or that you are the…
Which rest need are you missing?
What is your body telling you this week? What is it trying to point out to you that you need in terms of rest? Where are you depleted? And what can you see about which rest need are you missing? My current musings are working my way through the Seven types of rest that we…
Are you dealing with tiredness?
What kind of tired are you today? How are you dealing with tiredness? Did the sleep you got last night leave you feeling rested today? Tiredness is something we all experience, and for many different reasons. And sometimes, when we are tired, it feels like getting more sleep simply isn’t hitting the restoration spot like…
On benevolent detachment and noticing
Noticing. I am noticing that I am doing a lot of noticing at the moment. I am talking to clients about the importance of noticing, and I am aware of how much space this is making in my own mind and soul. Simply stopping, and noticing. And detaching. Like letting go of a balloon and…
The seamless garment of silence
How is your soul this week? How much does it need to touch the seamless garment of silence? This is a question I ask quite often here, and as we approach the season of Advent and then Christmas, this question warrants a few minutes of time. Our lives are full and busy and we have…
Learning to say no well.
Over these past weeks, I have been musing here on the impact of Covid burnout. This has included considering the effects of burnout on our physical bodies, what negativity and numbing do to us and how to take remedial action. What rest means to you and how to engage in rest that is actually –…
Could you live without your phone for a day?
Last week I posed the question: how do you respond to having a tech free day? Let’s look more at the specifics of that, because what I am really asking is: Could you live without your phone for a day? In my work as a life coach, what I do most is ask people questions.…