How often do we play the comparisons game? You know how it works – I wish I was more/less like so-and-so If only I could…..like he/she can I can’t write/draw/play football/sing/cook/ as well as…….can I wish I was as handsome/fit/pretty/tall/short/thin as……. In reflecting back on our lives when we get to the end of them, if…
How to live in the present in this season
How do we learn to live in the present, in this season? With all the uncertainty and instability in our world? And as Christmas rapidly approaches? One of the death bed regrets I have been musing on is regretting not making more of each moment that we live in. Do you crave the quiet enjoyment…
How to tell someone you love them
Watching a programme on television recently about a day in the life of a busy Accident and Emergency department, I am moved to tears by the heartfelt and earnest opening remarks of an A and E consultant: …tell your loved ones how much they mean to you because you never know what is going to…
Who are you at your best?
Who are you at your best? What does it mean for you to be your best self? And why does that now feel just a little teeny bit corny? If it is your own lovely self that is holding you back, sign up here for a free course to get yourself out of that trap…
Letting go of busy
Chances are, if I ask you how you are this week, you might well answer with Busy. Busyness can be useful and is an important part of normal, 21st Century life. And letting go of busy is a hot topic these days. Sometimes we are able to accomplish more when we are busier. And life…
Don’t look back in regret
How are you living today to minimise your end-of-life regrets? What do you most want to NOT regret at the end of your life, and how is that affecting your choices today? To not look back in regret? These past few weeks have seen me musing on common death bed regrets, and the implications of…
How to have more confidence
Have you seen the Sound of Music? Maria at one point is trying to motivate herself into feeling more confident by – of course – singing a song. I must dream of the things I am seeking. I am seeking the courage I lack… I have confidence in confidence alone! Besides, which you see, I…
Why Contentment Matters: Skills for Modern Life
Should contentment be taught as a skill? This is a fascinating thought – that contentment, along with other life skills, could be on some kind of educational curriculum. Contentment matters, along with skills like emotional intelligence and resilience. These are cornerstone skills for modern life, equipping us to deal with the day to day pressures…
The Importance of Being Present in a Digital Age
When was the last time you bumped into someone on the pavement because you were both walking along looking at your phones? The need to raise the importance of being present in a digital age is such a 21st century phenomenon. But it IS important because it is another oft-cited deathbed regret: I wish I…
I wish I had taken more chances.
I wish I had taken more chances. Do you every feel like that? How does it feel to imagine getting to the end of your life and looking back at lost opportunities – the ‘what if’s, the fizzled out dreams? Not a very cheery place to start this week, I know. Sorry. But this stuff…