How much time do you spend worrying about that which is beyond your control? I was musing last time about this quote from Arthur Somers Roche (1883-1935): Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.” We all worry. It…
What direction are your thoughts taking you?
What direction are your thoughts taking you most often this week? Is what is going in to your cup good, kind, inspiring, positive? This is where we left off last time – the idea that what spills out of us is a mark of what is inside of us in the first place. This applies…
How do I know what I am feeling – Using the Feeling Wheel
How do I know what I am feeling? Last week I was musing on how difficult it can be to identify what we are actually feeling, given the thousands of different emotions humans are capable of. The Feeling Wheel has been developed by the psychotherapist Dr Gloria Willcox to give people a language to help…
How well do you receive compliments?
We’ve all seen it – the false modesty in someone who protests-too-much-methinks when given compliments. You are simply seeking to be complimentary towards them and say something kind, and it gets batted right back at you, seemingly bouncing off the intended recipient. For some people, this can be a very deliberate tactic to be attention…
Don’t take yourself too seriously
How thick or thin skinned are you? Do you easily become uptight and tense, and get stressed when your plans do not go according to your expectations? Don’t take yourself too seriously, because that might be what is going on here. Perhaps there is little space in your day for fun or spontaneity. Or maybe disruption…
What is your self talk like?
Last week I was musing about what it means to be comfortable in your own skin. This is of course a huge subject area, and we are only just scratching the surface. But one thing that has stayed with me since I wrote that post is the importance of paying attention to our self talk. …
Are you comfortable in your own skin?
Genuine people are, apparently. This is linked to all these different aspects of being genuine – not being attention seeking or needing the approval of others, living with integrity and healthy self awareness of one’s limits, not needing external stuff to be happy (see last week). Looking up the phrase in a dictionary of idioms,…
Do you need to be liked?
How important is it to you that people like you? I know that is quite an opener this week, but be honest with yourself. To what extent does the good opinion of others matter? And more importantly perhaps, whose opinion of you matters the most? Why do you need to be liked by that person?…
What does it mean to be genuine?
When you think of a genuine person, what sorts of characteristics spring to mind? Who are the people you can think of who are genuine? What is it you like about them and are drawn to? And – I guess for where this is going – would others describe you as a genuine person? What…
Sometimes it’s nice to celebrate….
I have been in the business as a life coach for more than 8 years now. In that time, I have had the enormous privilege of coaching many people into greater fullness of life. I have worked with clients who have required only a few sessions to gain the clarity and forward momentum required to…