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How did I end up here? More on Team coaching

How might your team benefit from team coaching?

How might your team benefit from team coaching?

It’s a funny old thing, this being in a new line of work. (Although nearly four years have passed since my physiotherapy days came to an end).

Sometimes I catch myself on thinking, how did I end up here?

What do I have to offer?

What right do I have to think anyone will want my services or believe that I am any good at this?

But what struck me forcibly during a recent team coaching session was that many of the skills and strengths I am using as a life coach have been honed and developed and grown over years as a physio.

It now surprises me that this surprises me!

Along with many physios, I have much experience working with groups and teams, have done a lot of teaching and communicating, and am motivated by encouraging others to take personal responsibility for their own situation and effect their own positive change.

Even so, it is still hugely reassuring and encouraging – and a lot of fun – to get to use skills and experience from one part of my life in another. Nothing is wasted – change is an opportunity to see what is worth keeping and what was only for that time. To be rooted in who we know ourselves to be, and what we know to be important and not tied to a specific role that we believe defines our identity.

Internal confidence, not external security.

And so too with teams. Such energy and drive come from a team reaching a shared passion and purpose, and then creating their own priorities and crafting their own actions. I facilitate, direct proceedings, shake things up a bit, bringing things back on track when required….using the persistence, strategy, juggling multiple things at once learned in my previous career.

The other thing that strikes me is that there is very little that is new under the sun. I have crafted team sessions using a lot of material from various sources. I attended a webinar by Nick Wright that gave me the initial model for the structure. I have been inspired by reading both The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by the late Stephen Covey, and Start with Why, by Simon Sinek. His TED talk of the same name is a great summary of this oh-so-sensible teaching and perspective.

And I have taken it all, stirred it around, used the bits that fit and added a lot of ideas of my own. Most importantly, are the elements and priorities that the team themselves come up with.

How does Team Coaching work?

The session itself is a combination of things. I do some talking, with a little theory depending on the needs and expectations of the team. I try not to do too much of that – the session is about you not me. I do ask lots of questions that are answered in different ways with different approaches depending on those present. Many post-it notes and writing on bits of paper is involved. And there are some practical exercises that could almost be considered to be games, but in a non-cheesy way. The energy grows as the session progresses, and individuals get the hang of what is going on, and that – hopefully – it is neither ‘boring or samey’.

So, if you work as part of a small team, ask yourself:

How would your team benefit from:

  • having some time to step back together in a bonding and encouraging sort of way (team song and hug not part of the process!)
  • think together about your vision and purpose
  • gain clarity on key priorities and goals
  • consider what the strengths are of the team and it’s individual members, and your training and development needs
  • look at communication and how to improve it
  • have time together to deal with whatever specific issues are pertinent to YOUR team
  • collectively come up with lots of action points to implement immediately.

If this is something that your team would benefit from get in touch to find out more. You can also find out more here, and feedback from some recent teams I have worked with.

Email me on catriona@equipforlifecoaching.com

or phone me on 07713 974138

And here’s a lovely thing about being authentic….

Going from being caged in by your life to being free and able to take on anything….becoming fully alive again….

Free to be fully aliveHow exciting is that!

Would you like to be able to say that about yourself, about your own life? Maybe you are there already – yippee! Maybe not quite yet. Read on..

Last week, I was talking about being authentic, and what it means to start with who you are – living as the person you are rather than the person you feel you should be or are supposed to be.

The starting point for this is knowing who you are in the first place. You cannot begin to accept yourself and start living as that person until you know yourself and what your own, unique life means.

What are your skills, strengths, values, dreams? What are you passionate about and motivated to do? What have your life experiences taught you, and what do you uniquely bring to the world?

Yes you – not the person next to you. You are not them. That is the whole point.

This then enables an unpicking and an untangling. I often describe the work we would do together in coaching like this:

Your life is like a treasure chest, and what we are going to do with coaching is take everything out,

look at it, keep and celebrate the good stuff, and ditch the unhelpful stuff.

The unhelpful stuff, as it were, can take a little longer to unearth, and includes negative self talk, lies we believe about ourselves, bad habits, to name the commonest. But by far the most significant thing for a client to work to remove from their life is negative self belief: I’m not, I can’t, I’m worthless, I’m a failure, I’ll never be able to….

This week I received the most lovely and affirming review from one of my wonderful clients. It fits so well with this theme of being authentic and starting with who you are and what you can do. Confidentiality is central to my work, and anonymity for some clients is important – people don’t always want their world to know what is going on internally, so no name. She is a teacher, she and I had face to face sessions over 9 months, initially every two to three weeks, and then much more spread out as she implemented and lived out her new habits and way of being. In a bit of shameless self-promotion, this is what she wrote.

When I went along to my initial taster session with Catriona, I instantly knew that working with her was going to be a great thing. I instantly felt at ease, and that feeling has increased as time has gone on.

She is truly an amazing life coach and person, who really cares about what she does. She is so skilled at helping you identify where you need to do some work on yourself.  There have been so many times when I have had ‘aha’ moments with her when I have thought… I have never thought about that that way!  Those moments have been transformative for me.

I truly have changed my entire life by going to see Catriona. She is totally forward thinking which I particularly loved. No dwelling on the past, more making a plan for right now and the future.  I have gone from someone who was caged in by her own life to someone who now feels free and able to take on anything! And that is thanks to Catriona!

I cannot recommend her highly enough! I even have people across the Atlantic Ocean talking about how marvellous she is!  Truly, everyone should have Catriona as their life coach! Without a doubt, the best thing I ever did!

Shucks. This is why I love what I do, why it is such an enormous privilege. This lovely, transformed and exuberant woman got to where she is now through a lot of hard work, along with my questioning, listening, support and accountability. But for her, the results speak for themselves. For everyone, the process is different as the starting point is different, and the time involved for everyone varies hugely. Change is rarely easy. The question is, is it worth it? What is the cost of not changing, of staying where you are?

At the top of this post I asked if you could describe yourself as ‘free and able to take on anything….fully alive’.

If you read that and something stirs in you that thinks, I want a bit of thatget in touch. I would love to hear from you!

 

Start with who you are – to be authentic.

My word of the week this week seems to be Authentic.

Living as your true self and not your false self.

Being yourself and not trying to be someone else.

Honest and real.

These are all different ways of saying pretty much the same thing – being authentic.

Being where you are when you are there – that is a weird one, but read it over a few times and it does make sense. How often are we doing a task or engaging with someone but our mind is not really present. We are thinking ahead to the next thing on our list, or wishing we were somewhere else, or worrying about what we should be doing. And therefore we are not being authentic to the task or the person – we are not being fully present toBe authentic - start with who you are the situation we are actually in.

Earlier this week, through the astonishing wonders of the internet, I enjoyed a marvelous Mastermind session with a dynamic and exciting group of fellow life coaches. All of us in different parts of the world, and in five different time zones (that bit was quite complicated!).

The theme of being authentic ran through the conversation like an anchoring thread, bringing each of us back to key questions like – who am I, what am I passionate about, and what do I bring to what I am doing.

As we talked, it became clear that we all faced similar real and very human tendencies. We find it easy to see what we are not doing well, and where we have got it wrong – especially compared to others. Easier to spot and try to cover over character flaws, rather than acknowledge and celebrate what we are good at.

How often do we live trying to be the person we think we should be?

Burying aspects of ourselves that we don’t like and don’t want others to see. Playing down what we are good at, or not seeing it at all. Stubbornly refusing to acknowledge what we can take responsibility for about ourselves and therefore choose to change.

Getting stuck in I’m not… I can’t… I don’t have… I’ll never.

Not only is this not authentic, but it is exhausting. I have written here before about the dangers of the comparisons game. The choice we have is to see who we are and what we can do.

Last week I was musing about coming back to what we know to be true, rather than relying on our feelings which can be flaky and unsettling. What do we know to be true of ourselves? What do we know of what we are good at, and what we can bring to the events of today?

Be authentic. Start with who you are. We can get up in the morning and tell ourselves –

This is who I am. This is what I can do. This is what is most important to me. This is what I am thankful for today. I can be me today – bring who I am, with acceptance and grace.

If that all sounds too far removed from your reality to be do-able, and you feel a bit floored trying to think of what you are good at and can do, get in touch! I can help you see and enjoy being you, and build that confidence and self belief.

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