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Sometimes we can get stuck in a rut, or in behaviour patterns that we can’t break out of. Here are lots of ideas and tips to help you move forward, to make changes and become your best self.

Having a different mindset – building bridges

A different mindset

A different mindset

Imagine something with me. You walk to work each day. You know what time you leave the house, to get to work at the right time. Working back from this, your morning routine is tightly timed to achieve all that you need to and still have maximum time in bed. And then suddenly, your commute becomes 2 miles longer. Each way. And you never know if your normal route will be open, or if the longer detour will be required. Cheerio normal morning routine, hello to uncertainty.

Now imagine you are 10 years old, and walking to school. And on a regular basis, the swamp between your half of the community and your school floods and becomes impassable. Hence the extra 4 mile round trip.

Imagine too that you have very few resources, little hope for change, and face seemingly insurmountable obstacles to try and improve your situation. I can’t, things will never change, I have nothing to contribute.

And then someone comes along and says, you can, things can change, you have who you are. And we can help.

Last week I was talking about mindset, in relation to how we perceive what is going on around us.

I read the story above about a split community in Liberia in the annual report for Tearfund, a development charity that I have long been a fan of.

The end of the story is wonderful, and wonderfully simple. The local community, with support from Tearfund, were encouraged and empowered to change their mindset:

to believe that ‘change was possible, and they had the skills and resources needed to make change happen’.

They lobbied the local authority for building supplies, and worked together to build a bridge connecting the two communities. You can read more here.

There is so much tragedy and disaster in our world currently. This is one small, simple story of positive change. But it brings such hope – when we each decide to take a positive look at our situation, to see what we can do and believe in who we are, forward progress is possible.

Sometimes it feels like we are facing insurmountable obstacles in our own lives. Rarely will that be an actual swamp. But you don’t need me to name some metaphorical swamps that you, or someone you know, might be facing. It can be easy – and often very easily justifiable – to become mired in that swamp, stuck in hopelessness, unable to see a way out, slipping into utter overwhelm and eventually passive resignation.

But we can choose instead to have a different mindset, and take one small first step towards change. This is hard on our own – that community in Liberia had tried before to motivate itself to build a bridge, but without enough self belief, this proved impossible. An external source came and said – you matter, your lives matter, we believe you can, and we can empower you to do so. Change is possible. It often starts with a different mindset.

Sometimes we need someone else to come and give us that first wee boost to propel us to start building a bridge out of our own swamp.

My little mastermind group of fellow life coaches is a great environment of support and accountability. Each of us works alone and therefore has to be self motivated and self directed. Sometimes we get stuck and the swamp can look daunting or impossible. That is where we can be bridge builders for each other – I have committed to them to complete certain tasks and achieve certain milestones before our next meeting.

Without them cheering me on and asking me how I am doing, I might easily slip into the mire of procrastination….too daunting….impossible.

But they inspire in me a different mindset. Who can you do that for this week, and who do you need to come alongside you and cheer you on?

 

 

And here’s a lovely thing about being authentic….

Going from being caged in by your life to being free and able to take on anything….becoming fully alive again….

Free to be fully aliveHow exciting is that!

Would you like to be able to say that about yourself, about your own life? Maybe you are there already – yippee! Maybe not quite yet. Read on..

Last week, I was talking about being authentic, and what it means to start with who you are – living as the person you are rather than the person you feel you should be or are supposed to be.

The starting point for this is knowing who you are in the first place. You cannot begin to accept yourself and start living as that person until you know yourself and what your own, unique life means.

What are your skills, strengths, values, dreams? What are you passionate about and motivated to do? What have your life experiences taught you, and what do you uniquely bring to the world?

Yes you – not the person next to you. You are not them. That is the whole point.

This then enables an unpicking and an untangling. I often describe the work we would do together in coaching like this:

Your life is like a treasure chest, and what we are going to do with coaching is take everything out,

look at it, keep and celebrate the good stuff, and ditch the unhelpful stuff.

The unhelpful stuff, as it were, can take a little longer to unearth, and includes negative self talk, lies we believe about ourselves, bad habits, to name the commonest. But by far the most significant thing for a client to work to remove from their life is negative self belief: I’m not, I can’t, I’m worthless, I’m a failure, I’ll never be able to….

This week I received the most lovely and affirming review from one of my wonderful clients. It fits so well with this theme of being authentic and starting with who you are and what you can do. Confidentiality is central to my work, and anonymity for some clients is important – people don’t always want their world to know what is going on internally, so no name. She is a teacher, she and I had face to face sessions over 9 months, initially every two to three weeks, and then much more spread out as she implemented and lived out her new habits and way of being. In a bit of shameless self-promotion, this is what she wrote.

When I went along to my initial taster session with Catriona, I instantly knew that working with her was going to be a great thing. I instantly felt at ease, and that feeling has increased as time has gone on.

She is truly an amazing life coach and person, who really cares about what she does. She is so skilled at helping you identify where you need to do some work on yourself.  There have been so many times when I have had ‘aha’ moments with her when I have thought… I have never thought about that that way!  Those moments have been transformative for me.

I truly have changed my entire life by going to see Catriona. She is totally forward thinking which I particularly loved. No dwelling on the past, more making a plan for right now and the future.  I have gone from someone who was caged in by her own life to someone who now feels free and able to take on anything! And that is thanks to Catriona!

I cannot recommend her highly enough! I even have people across the Atlantic Ocean talking about how marvellous she is!  Truly, everyone should have Catriona as their life coach! Without a doubt, the best thing I ever did!

Shucks. This is why I love what I do, why it is such an enormous privilege. This lovely, transformed and exuberant woman got to where she is now through a lot of hard work, along with my questioning, listening, support and accountability. But for her, the results speak for themselves. For everyone, the process is different as the starting point is different, and the time involved for everyone varies hugely. Change is rarely easy. The question is, is it worth it? What is the cost of not changing, of staying where you are?

At the top of this post I asked if you could describe yourself as ‘free and able to take on anything….fully alive’.

If you read that and something stirs in you that thinks, I want a bit of thatget in touch. I would love to hear from you!

 

Choosing to take an imperfect first step towards your dreams.

You’ve got big dreams.

You are going to declutter the house. Clear out the garage.

Set up your own business.

Write a book.

Have a long awaited family gathering.

Simplify your lifestyle and move somewhere quiet.

Order all your photographs and print them out to enjoy them rather than them taking up space on the computer.

What are your dreams?

What are your dreams?

And how long has that dream been in the planning stage?

Sometimes we plan, and wait, and plan some more. We have a dream of how we want things to be. But sometimes we can be so crippled by our fears that it is easier to remain at the planning stage. Fear of –

  • things not working out as we had planned (or hoped)
  • starting something that grows into a monster
  • not seeing it through to the end and feeling a failure (again)
  • other’s expectations of us
  • all things unexpected – costs, time, energy investment
  • not being taken seriously
  • looking foolish when it all goes pear-shaped
  • complete failure, of our dream not working out at all.

Fear of failure can so consume us that we become obsessed with creating the perfect plan, and paralysed into not actually taking any steps towards achieving that plan.

Some of those dreams I opened with have less riding on them than others. If I don’t get the garage cleared out or the photos sorted, the world is not going to come to an end, and no one else really suffers terribly. Starting a business, writing a book, moving to a completely different lifestyle, going back to full time study – these are much bigger dreams with greater investment and more to lose.

But all dreams are important, and common denominator is self belief.

Do I believe in myself enough – my own skills and abilities, my passion to see this dream become a reality, and my motivation and discipline – to see it through?

When we reach small, easily achievable dreams, our confidence grows, we learn more about ourselves and how we work. And it becomes that little bit easier to reach for something slightly further up the mountain.

When I was finishing my life coach training, I still had my job as a physiotherapist. The thought of leaving that job, setting up as a coach and starting my own business was terrifying. There was so much at stake, and all the fears mentioned above took up residence in my mind like so many gruesome monsters.

What helped hugely were some words of great wisdom from the coach who trained me:

take imperfect action.

The danger is that you become so bogged down in trying to get it all perfect that you don’t get started.

She used the marvelous phrase – analysis paralysis.

This is the idea that you spend so long analysing your plan…

…tweaking and changing it….re-doing your spreadsheet of action steps….colour coding your goals list….revisiting all your theory and learning….asking anyone and everyone for advice…

….that you don’t actually get started on the plan at all.

The longer you take to get started, the more likely you are to suffer from analysis paralysis. What will happen if you do nothing? Nothing. Becomes entirely self-fulfilling.

So simply as a way of getting started, do something. Take an imperfect first step.

How much do you want those dreams? Choose to take an imperfect first step, and the next step will follow.

[and if this has prompted you to reconnect with a dream, and you would like support, structure and accountability in taking those steps, get in touch and we can do this together. It’s what I do!]

 

 

More musings inspired by Dr Seuss…and fish.

teach a man to fish

Teach a man to fish…

As part of an occasional series of thoughts and musings based on Dr Seuss words and quotes, here are another couple of my favourites:

 Just tell yourself, Duckie, you’re really quite lucky!”

There has been much in the popular press recently about the scientifically proven power of gratitude. I can testify to this in an entirely unscientific way. Furthermore, I have anecdotal evidence of several clients. Each of them is choosing to record three things daily that they are thankful for, or that are good in their lives. And each one speaks to the huge perspective shift they are enjoying –

immensely helpful

empowering

“focusing on positive outcomes and feeling much better”

Try it for a week – at the end of each day, simply write down three things you are thankful for. And see what happens Duckie.

 

It is better to know how to learn than to know.”

I LOVE this. If there is one sentence that sums up the power of life coaching, then this is it. If I tell you the specific solution to one particular problem that you have in your life, then once that problem is resolved, you potentially find yourself back to square one when the next problem comes along – stuck with a new problem and no solution.

However, if I enable you to come up with solutions for yourself by learning how to problem solve, then you are potentially set up for life. Each of us has the ability within ourselves to come up with creative and unique solutions to our own problems. What we sometimes lack is an outside perspective, and some objectivity to think outside of the box and learn how to problem solve.

Put it another way –

Give a man a fish and he eats for a day.

Teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime. 

‘Twas my grandfather who used to say that, not Dr Seuss. Ancient Chinese wisdom was considered to be the source of this saying, although doubt is now cast on this. It matters not a jot.

What matters is the ability we each of us have to learn how to learn, and therefore be better equipped for the rest of our lives.

Need help learning to fish, metaphorically speaking? Get in touch – I can help! Find out more about what life coaching is and how it can help you here.

 

It’s all about awareness

It’s all about awareness. Or at least, that is probably the most important starting point. Because until we are aware of

…what we think

…how we feel

…our gut reactions

how we react

…what triggers those reactions

…what underlies those reactions

…we are not in a position to make appropriate choices. Because that is the next step. We choose our response, and in so doing, are in a position to radically alter the reality that we are in.

Let me give you a staggeringlyAwareness trivial example from my own world, but one that you might identify with.

One of my Nearest-and-Dearest leaves a pile of generic household items (…? you know, glue sticks, scissors, chargers, boring random stuff) that have been used for something by that individual, but are now finished with, in a pile in a place other than that to which they belong.

I find them, and notice that they are still there some while later.

First step, I become aware of how I feel:

I am an organised person, who likes to complete a task and do so efficiently. And I can’t stand clutter. So this presses many of my buttons – not finishing the job, not tidying up, not taking responsibility, creating mess, not being aware of other household members.

I feel irritated and annoyed that this has happened again.

Now, that awareness then presents me with two main choices of response –

Choice Number 1 –

Those feelings of irritation start to quickly escalate. How could they do this to me? Do they think a tidying up fairy lives in this house? This triggers more deeply buried negative tapes: I have to do everything round here. No one else takes any responsibility. It’s not fair. I feel taken for granted again. I am not appreciated for what I do, no one notices all that I contribute yet if I wasn’t here this place would grind to a standstill.

My response is to yell and scream and rant and rage. The person in question gets it in the neck. And then things turn really nasty – lots of past misdemeanours get raked up and cast at other, entirely uninvolved, family members, as I storm about tidying up to make my point. The atmosphere sours, everyone is miserable and it takes a while to recover equilibrium.

Notice several issues here – my own emotional needs for appreciation, respect and attention; blaming the other and not seeing my own issues; keeping score of all that I do. And if this is a repeating pattern, not seeing my own need to change. All relationship lies that we have talked about over these past weeks. It is interesting to note how quickly they all come into play, within a matter of seconds.

The challenge is to take time to stop and breathe and pay attention in the moment of awareness to what is going on under the surface.

And that makes Choice Number 2 possible –

I stop and take a breath, and realise what emotions are surfacing and what emotional needs are being triggered. I also am aware of the potential for imposing my own expectations and values onto the rest of the household, who do not necessarily share my love of organisation and efficiency.

I recognise that this is one isolated incident, and is not very important. My needs are valid, and there is an issue of tidying up. But it does not represent a global lack of appreciation of me, nor a global failure on the part of the individual. I recognise that if I start down the ranting-and-raving route, I will be as miserable as everyone else, and that is not what I want. And therefore my response is key, as I have full responsibility for that.

I go and find the individual, and ask if they have finished with the items in questions. At this point, I could also choose to calmly express my frustration and encourage them to take responsibility for their part in keeping the house reasonably tidy. If practical, I ask them to clear up immediately. If they are in the middle of something (homework for example – I don’t want you thinking that MB is always the individual in question here!) ask them to clear up within a reasonable and agreed time frame.

This whole process takes only a matter of minutes. And yet, the outcome is utterly different.

This is a trivial example of a complex process. You will have situations that spring to mind that exemplify this process within yourself.  Learning to respond like this takes time, effort and lots of practice – but who said that good relationships were going to be easy? We start to become aware of our emotional needs, negative tapes, internal scripts and repeated behaviour patterns, and realise how they play out in our interactions with others. The steps are clear –

Awareness : choice : response.

This week, try applying some of this to your own interactions with your nearest-and-dearest, and see how your awareness grows.

Help! My confidence is in my boots

Confidence – a bit of a thorny issue this one. How are your confidence levels on a scale of 1 to 10? Pretty confident are you? Great….but what about those negative or critical voices in your head that delight in pointing out how poorly you compare to so-and-so, or how badly you performed in such-and-such situation, or that push you to always have to prove that you are ‘good enough’…?

Confidence to be youNot got any voices like that? Then I would love to meet you and hear your story and learn from you, and I affirm and celebrate you in who you are, my friend. My hunch is that most of us have internal scripts or critical voices that worm their way into our thoughts and cause us to spiral downwards into

poor self belief,

negative behaviour patterns,

lack of self worth

unwillingness or inability to accept ourselves.

Crippling isn’t it.  Lack of confidence, in any shape or form or of any magnitude, can cause us to feel we are walking on our knees with our hands tied behind our backs.

I know, as do all the clients I have worked with. This may not be the initial issue that prompts someone to work with me as a Life Coach, but root around long enough, and the chances are that negative self talk will make its’ ugly presence felt. Confidence can take a battering, and it can be hard to recover.

But that is a great start, and self awareness is the first and key step to self acceptance.

We can’t change our behaviour until we truly understand it, and the root of it.

And growing in confidence starts with greater self acceptance.

Now, let me be clear here – I am not a counsellor, and am careful not to tread on the toes of those who do such excellent and important work. What I do offer is the chance to

  • gain understanding in your own strengths, values, life experiences and motivators – all the components of the amazing package that is you
  • see and learn from the common threads and themes that you uniquely have to offer
  • understand where the negative voices are coming from, and therefore how to start to get rid of them
  • grow in confidence, self belief and self acceptance and therefore gain clarity in decision making, setting boundaries, and understanding what is – and isn’t – your responsibility.

One happy client put it like this –

I truly felt empowered and reminded of who I am and who I am on a journey towards becoming.

Yippee!! I love this – I love to see people thrive  and live with lightness and freedom simply as themselves. So, if your confidence has taken a battering, but you would like to be able to understand and celebrate who you are, get in touch and we can work to rebuild you together.

It doesn’t have to be following a very dramatic crisis or crash – simple, small gains in self awareness and self acceptance can facilitate huge gains in self confidence and promote much greater enjoyment in life. Don’t you want a bit of that?!

Help! Transition is coming and I’m stuck

Finding a way through transition

Finding a way through transition

Long gone are the days when we left school, college or university, walked into a job and kept that job for the 40 plus years of a working life. Nowadays, the expectation is that each of us might have several different careers, if we even manage to get that far – there is much more uncertainty around working lives, career structures, and how we use our skills to the best. And thus it is more likely than ever that we face a time of transition in our lives that may make us stop short and question who we are and what we are best designed to do. Perhaps this is you –

  • you are stopping something you have done for a long time – a paid or unpaid role – and have no idea what to do next; you feel redundant and purposeless and stuck as to where on earth you might go now
  • you are approaching retirement, a career break or redundancy, but your identity and self worth has always been tied up in your job and you face a crisis of confidence and purpose without that role
  • you have spent a lot of time in a particular role giving out a lot to others – as a parent or carer, volunteer – but have lost sight of who you are, what you enjoy and what you have to offer
  • your children are leaving home and you suddenly realise that all this time is opening up to you, but what do you do with it, and who are you without them defining your time?

Transitions can be very hard but can also often be the making of us.

Taking the time and courage to stop, look objectively at strengths, values, life experiences, passions and motivators can enable us to formulate a picture of

  • who we are at our best
  • grow in self awareness and confidence
  • better understand what kind of role would be a good fit next
  • how to live with greater fulfilment and freedom day to day.

Life coaching is a perfect way to work through transitions and get unstuck. Life is not a linear pathway – I know from my own experience of having changed career after 22 years. There are huge challenges, opportunities, obstacles and growth opportunities to be faced, and doing so alone can be daunting and overwhelming. As one satisfied client expressed it –

I have shifted from a confused, tired place through to a position of hope for my future

So are you, or someone you know, facing a time of transition in your life – perhaps you fear that what you are good at is ending, and where does that leave you? Life coaching can help you regain purpose and move forward with greater freedom and hope for the future. Get in touch to find out more!

Help! I’m self-employed and out of balance.

Time management for the self-employed. Sounds like a book title or a this-will-completely-sort-you-out-all-singing-all-dancing course. It is neither – it is a key problem that faces those who work for themselves, some of whom have sought my help.

Self-employed and out of balance?

Self-employed and out of balance?

Of course, time management, work/life balance, work boundaries affect all of us. But I am discovering for myself and from clients that when you are your own boss (especially in a one man business) it takes quite a level of self discipline and proactivity to manage well your own resources when no-one is telling you what to do or how to do it. No imposed organisational structures, no manager, no time sheets, and possibly no set office hours. These are some of the attractions of being self-employed of course, but are accompanied by their own challenges.

Challenges for the self-employed include –

  • not knowing when to stop or when what you have done is ‘enough’
  • sole working and always having to be proactive, sometimes with little support
  • not taking proper breaks or time for self care and rest and running out of energy
  • struggling to switch off when away from work, with negative impact on sleep, family relationships, self care
  • difficulty saying ‘no’ to work so risking becoming swamped
  • no clarity about the mission and values of who you are as your company that then enables clear choices in what to take on
  • prioritising what is important over the urgent never-going-away pressing demands
  • little time or head space to look at the bigger picture and develop goals

I can help! I have had the privilege and challenge of working with a number of clients who have come to me with some of these issues – who have left large organisations to improve their work/life balance and ended up feeling swamped, overwhelmed and a little at sea. From my own experience, I have some understanding of this. I left the behemoth of an institution that is the NHS after more than 20 years to work for myself. I can tick all of the above off my own list of challenges, some of which have caught me completely off guard and have almost stopped me in my tracks. But together we are learning, and as one client expressed it

I would highly recommend life-coaching to anyone who has ever wondered if chaotic life-work balance could be improved – it can!

Imagine instead having –

  • a clear vision/mission statement for your work that helps clarify your niche, provides motivation and passion, where to focus your time and energy, and better boundaries within work choices
  • the ability to be proactive about personal and career development because you have a clear understanding of purpose and direction
  • clear boundaries on work and non-work life and resources, including time, routine and structures that work for you
  • a clearer understanding of how you work and your own character that enables better management of energy drainers and gainers
  • specific, practical and SMART time management frameworks that work to increase productivity
  • accountability, support, encouragement, challenge and a sounding board throughout the process

I would love to help – if you, or someone you know, are self-employed and feeling a bit swamped, get in touch!

 

Help! I’m too busy.

How are you doing this week? A standard question, and I am guessing that many of you might give a fairly standard answer – “I’m too busy/life is really busy/don’t know where the time is going/the year is passing so quickly*”

Too busy to see the bigger picture?

Too busy to see the bigger picture?

[*circle the most relevant answer]

In all my work as a life coach, this is the one of the key problems I help people address: being too busy.

This would class as the main heading for this category of problems that clients come to me with, but of course, there are multiple subheadings. How many of these do you currently relate to –

  • I seem to have no control over my time.
  • I always seem to be reacting to events and feeling like I am on the back foot, unprepared and under-resourced.
  • I never have time for me/exercise/friends.
  • I have lost sight of the bigger picture and can’t find time to prioritise what is really important; my perspective has gone and I no longer know what is really important.
  • Life feels like one long to-do list, I am always rushing around but feel like I achieve very little.
  • I know what I want to do, but don’t have any systems or structures that work or that I can stick to.
  • I know what I want to do, have big dreams, but no head space or time to implement them.
  • I seem to have no boundaries on my time or understanding of where responsibilities lie.

A sobering list, but these are all situations and problems that clients have come to me with over the years. At times, I can claim to have ticked all of the above, and in my work am learning the challenge of self-accountability – to walk the talk.

So – which of those problems of being too busy would you most relate to?

This is the starting point but – importantly – not the end of the story. Imagine instead

  • gaining a clear understanding of what is most important to you in all areas of life, and prioritising your time accordingly
  • living proactively not reactively, with time to be properly and appropriately resourced
  • having good routines, habits, systems and structures that are supportive and well functioning for you individually that facilitate good time management and time keeping
  • having time for personal development to enable growth in relationships, work, life, character
  • learning to put better boundaries in place, and say ‘no’ without guilt
  • having something akin to a vision statement for your own life that keeps you focused on the bigger picture.

Again, these are all outcomes that together, clients and I have worked towards. As one client put it –

[life coaching] helped me identify and focus on things that were important to help me move forward.”

A little food for thought over these summer months, when – allegedly – there might be a modicum of breathing space for reflection about what needs to change.

Too busy? – get in touch, I can help!

 

 

 

Get organised, get energised!

Get organised

Get organised

Get organised. OK, so I have to admit, this is a subject close to my heart.  I LOVE organising things. Maybe it should be phrased thus: “Hi, my name is Catriona and I am an organiser.”

Those of you who know me, know this about me and may well have been on the receiving end. I apologise if my zeal for organising can be a tad overwhelming. MB (My Beloved as he is known here) suffers the most I fear. We had a dear friend staying recently who is very like me in temperament and character. Poor MB, he looked like he was trapped between a rock and a hard place, dealing with these twin organisational enthusiasts.

But as we tackle the complex and thorny subject of burnout, being more organised does make some sense. Some of the stress that we experience daily stems not from having too much work but from being too disorganised to handle that work effectively and efficiently. Even MB, who does not love organising things as I do, concurs that time taken to get organised and create systems that work results in the load feeling more manageable.

For me, efficiency is at the root of my love of organisation. My oft-repeated mantra of “if you are going to do something, do it properly” goes hand in hand with my loathing of time wasting and half completed tasks. And one of my biggest energy drainers?

Clutter.

There, I might as well vomit out all my deep-seated character traits and confess the lot. For me, systems that work efficiently and avoid time wasting and repetition allow my physical space to be clearer. Thus I am enabled to function better and have more focus on the task. More physical space and less clutter creates more head space and mental energy. This goes some way to internal serenity and peace, and makes it easier to switch off to work or admin or even housework.

So, how to get organised? The key, as ever, is to know yourself.

  • What is your baseline level of organisation and tidiness? This will vary hugely between individuals, and it is important to be realistic. Setting standards that are not achievable simply increases the likelihood of failure and will add to mental fatigue and reduce motivation and confidence.
  • What systems actually work for you? What do you find most appealing? What kind of environment will be most conducive to you maintaining order once it is created? This will depend on your style and character. I favour logic and structure whilst bothering less about aesthetics. MB and Elder daughter value aesthetics, colour, beauty over logic and therefore are more likely to stick with a system that is attractive and appealing visually. (MB as a teenager had all his vinyl ordered by album colour. Mine were in alphabetical order, of course. Shows you how different our brains are!). But it is important to recognise that creating order and systems is only the first step. The bigger challenge is finding achievable ways to maintain that level of organisation.
  • What is your overall goal of creating order? Having a goal increases motivation and ensures compliance with on-going organisation. For example, if organising a desk and filing system at work increases focus and productivity and saves time, there is likely to be more buy-in. At home, you understand that a less cluttered environment promotes serenity and soothes the mind and soul. And therefore the initial tidy up can be seen as more freeing, and the time required weekly to maintain that order feels less onerous.
  • Carve up the elephant. I say this all the time to clients. Take what seems like an insurmountable hurdle and break it down into smaller, more manageable tasks. If you are a list person, writing them down is followed by the joy of ticking them off! Start small, with a time limit, and a suitable reward at the end.
  • Do something towards creating order, no matter how seemingly insignificant or trivial. You can only take a second and third step once you have taken that first onenothing will happen if you do nothing.

Now I fully understand that taking this sort of positive, proactive action requires energy, time and focus. And if you are heading towards burnout or struggling with stress and mental fatigue, these pointers may seem too much, too hard, too idealistic. So go back a little, and seek to gain a little rest, switch off, recharge, allow your soul to catch up. 

And once on the journey to being a little restored, get organised. It will add to your energy and confidence.

As I said at the beginning, I am good at organising. So if this is a step too far on your own, if clutter and chaos reign and are threatening to overwhelm, get in touch and we can get organised together. Simply contact me here.

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