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Making good choices towards fulfillment not regret.

Good choicesHere we are in spring, quarter of the year gone already. What good choices have you made this year so far?

I began this year asking myself the question:

For me to get to the end of this year and say, that was a good year, what would have had to happen?

For as much as it is within my control, that of course comes down to good choices – how I use my time, how I develop my business, how I invest in relationships including with myself.

There are clear stages to facilitate this process.

Having an idea of a vision for what I want this year to be about is a good starting point. Looking at my values, and priorities comes next. And then creating goals, followed by action plans that allow me to move towards those goals. And doing so with the bigger picture of the vision for the year in mind keeps me going. Within that, I am factoring in the importance of time to reflect, to let my soul catch up, and to reconnect with what is most important as the year progresses.

This space creates the opportunity to regroup, get back on track and make changes. I have sought accountability in the form of a mastermind group of fellow coaches, which is great fun and hugely life giving.

Life happens, it is impossible to plan for every eventuality. But having an overall idea of priorities and goals helps ensure that time is given to that which is most important – even when the unexpected threatens to derail us.

That all sounds very good, and that I am practicing what I am working on with many of my clients. Taking one’s own medicine, always a challenge in any occupation!

[Small digression – if the process I have just summarised above sounds exactly what you are needing for this year/decade/stage in life, get in touch and we can work on that together, it’s what I do!]

At the start of a year (or a new job, relationship, opportunity), it is impossible to have anything more than plans and ideals as to how things will unfold. We cannot tell the future, and there are many uncertainties and unknowns. If hindsight could be sold in bottles, to be drunk in advance with caution or abandon, chances are our choices might be very different. But all we are left with instead is the sometimes-poisoned chalice of regret after the event is over.

Four years ago, I chose to leave a good and successful job to start a new career as a life coach. I am often asked how I came to actually jump off that cliff, rather than talk about but not implement that change. There is a book in there that I intend to write – one day. Numerous factors contributed to that decision, which are not the subject of this post. But an article I read recently on choices we regret making made me think (published on LinkedIn a few years ago by a chap called Jeff Haden).

Had I not made this momentous and truly life changing choice, I would certainly have regretted it. Don’t get me wrong – I enjoyed my job, had a great career as a physiotherapist and much of what I learned informs my coaching. I have wonderful colleagues, who remain good friends, and a treasure trove of memories. [A chapter in my written-only-thus-far-in-my-mind book will be on ending well!]

I made that choice without the benefit of hindsight, but with all the knowledge, information, support, wisdom and advice I could accrue in advance.

Good choices.

Broadening this out, and taking some inspiration from the aforementioned article, what other good choices can we make in life that will facilitate us living lives of fulfillment and not regret? I have written here before, a while ago, about death bed regrets. This next series will look at it from a proactive perspective – and we will explore together themes like

  • Choosing to be brave
  • Choosing to care
  • Choosing not to be too proud

This week, as a wee starter for ten, as you consider this coming week or season, what are some good choices you could make?

Inspired? Encouraged? Get in touch!

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