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Choosing to take an imperfect first step towards your dreams.

You’ve got big dreams.

You are going to declutter the house. Clear out the garage.

Set up your own business.

Write a book.

Have a long awaited family gathering.

Simplify your lifestyle and move somewhere quiet.

Order all your photographs and print them out to enjoy them rather than them taking up space on the computer.

What are your dreams?

What are your dreams?

And how long has that dream been in the planning stage?

Sometimes we plan, and wait, and plan some more. We have a dream of how we want things to be. But sometimes we can be so crippled by our fears that it is easier to remain at the planning stage. Fear of –

  • things not working out as we had planned (or hoped)
  • starting something that grows into a monster
  • not seeing it through to the end and feeling a failure (again)
  • other’s expectations of us
  • all things unexpected – costs, time, energy investment
  • not being taken seriously
  • looking foolish when it all goes pear-shaped
  • complete failure, of our dream not working out at all.

Fear of failure can so consume us that we become obsessed with creating the perfect plan, and paralysed into not actually taking any steps towards achieving that plan.

Some of those dreams I opened with have less riding on them than others. If I don’t get the garage cleared out or the photos sorted, the world is not going to come to an end, and no one else really suffers terribly. Starting a business, writing a book, moving to a completely different lifestyle, going back to full time study – these are much bigger dreams with greater investment and more to lose.

But all dreams are important, and common denominator is self belief.

Do I believe in myself enough – my own skills and abilities, my passion to see this dream become a reality, and my motivation and discipline – to see it through?

When we reach small, easily achievable dreams, our confidence grows, we learn more about ourselves and how we work. And it becomes that little bit easier to reach for something slightly further up the mountain.

When I was finishing my life coach training, I still had my job as a physiotherapist. The thought of leaving that job, setting up as a coach and starting my own business was terrifying. There was so much at stake, and all the fears mentioned above took up residence in my mind like so many gruesome monsters.

What helped hugely were some words of great wisdom from the coach who trained me:

take imperfect action.

The danger is that you become so bogged down in trying to get it all perfect that you don’t get started.

She used the marvelous phrase – analysis paralysis.

This is the idea that you spend so long analysing your plan…

…tweaking and changing it….re-doing your spreadsheet of action steps….colour coding your goals list….revisiting all your theory and learning….asking anyone and everyone for advice…

….that you don’t actually get started on the plan at all.

The longer you take to get started, the more likely you are to suffer from analysis paralysis. What will happen if you do nothing? Nothing. Becomes entirely self-fulfilling.

So simply as a way of getting started, do something. Take an imperfect first step.

How much do you want those dreams? Choose to take an imperfect first step, and the next step will follow.

[and if this has prompted you to reconnect with a dream, and you would like support, structure and accountability in taking those steps, get in touch and we can do this together. It’s what I do!]

 

 

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